The New Adam Podcast w/ Man in the Mirror

Ep. 27 | The War for Men: Luke Detraz on Identity, Father Wounds, and Rebuilding the Internal Map

In this episode, Ryan Reeves sits down with Luke Detraz, founder of Field & Faith, to discuss the tectonic shifts facing men in 2026. Luke shares his personal journey from navigating identity wounds to the mission behind his new book, The War for Men.
We dive deep into why so many men today feel "functionally invisible" in their own social circles. Luke argues that rebuilding a man starts from the inside out—addressing the "Generational Ghosts"  and the father wounds that often dictate our modern tensions. Whether you are navigating a career transition, family loss, or the weight of isolation, this conversation provides a tactical map for finding your footing again.
 
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Ep. 26 | How a 40 Year Old Looks Back at 20

What would you say to your 20-year-old self if you could sit across the table from him today? In this episode, Ryan and Jake dive into the "weird" and transformative decade of the 40s—an age where the body starts to remind you it’s not invincible, but the soul starts to find its footing. From the physical realization that you can no longer assemble furniture on the floor without a week of neck pain, to the spiritual shift from ambition to legacy, this conversation explores what it means to truly mature as a man of faith.

Ep. 25 | Honeymoon to Hospice

What does it look like to "stress test" your character before saying "I do"? In this deeply personal episode, Ryan and Brett explore the reality of marriage in your 40s, where "potential" is replaced by honesty, and compatibility is proven in the aisles of a tile store. Ryan opens up about his recent wedding and the "relieved" feeling of finding a partner who levels his life, but the celebration is met with a sudden, somber turn: the passing of his father just weeks later. From the complexities of dating as a "thrift store find" to a moving tribute to the "stay-putness" of the Boomer generation, this conversation is a raw look at the structures of love, the weight of grief, and the quiet virtues of the men who came before us.

Ep. 24 | Dealing With the Death of a Father

In this deeply personal episode, Ryan and Jake sit down just days after the passing of Ryan’s father. Moving past the "clinical" or "academic" view of death, they dive into the messy, multifaceted reality of grief, the "Boomer" legacy of the 1940s generation, and how we as men can integrate loss into our lives without losing hope.

Ep. 23 | The Integrated Man: Stability in a Season of Change

Host Ryan Reeves is joined once again by Jake Korn for a candid conversation on navigating life’s "cold snaps." Moving past the usual surface-level advice, Ryan and Jake explore the biological and spiritual necessity of stress, comparing a man’s growth to trees that require wind to develop deep roots. From Jake’s transition into a new role at Wounded Warrior Project to Ryan navigating the impending loss of his father and his daughter’s early graduation, they discuss how to remain an "integrated man" rather than a reactive one. They tackle the modern dopamine crisis, the discipline of gardening as a present-focus tool, and the "Boat and Sail" analogy for family leadership. This episode serves as a gut-check for men to stop manipulating the future and start stewarding the present, finding the "good days" even in the middle of chaos.

Ep. 22 | The Art of a Listening Heart w/ Chris "Harp" Harper

In this episode of the New Adam Podcast, Brett Clemmer sits down with Chris "Harp" Harper, CEO of BetterMan, for a raw and insightful conversation on the discipline of character and the weight of real-world leadership. From his upbringing in the "hollers" of Kentucky to leading a national men’s ministry, Harp shares why he prioritizes consistency over intensity and the vital importance of a "listening heart." The duo dives into the pitfalls of leading for affirmation, why your feelings are a "terrible compass" for truth, and how our life’s "misses" are often what qualify us most to mentor others. Whether you’re a young man looking for an on-ramp to community or an older leader wondering if you have anything left to offer, this episode serves as a powerful reminder that maturity isn't found in flashy moments, but in the faithful, daily grind of following Jesus.

Ep. 21 | From Stadiums to Stillness: Lessons on Men’s Souls with Promise Keepers Founder RT Philips

In this powerful episode, Brett is joined by RT Phillips, a pioneer in the modern men's movement and the first president of Promise Keepers. RT takes us behind the scenes of the historic 1990 gathering in Boulder, Colorado, where 4,200 men sparked a supernatural explosion of faith that eventually reached millions. From his early days in the "hippie culture" and getting drafted into the Army to pastoring in Hawaii, RT reflects on a life shaped by both massive catalytic success and a "20-year freefall" that followed his time at the top. The two discuss the shifting needs of men—moving from the "cultural Christianity" battles of the '90s to the current crisis of isolation and loneliness in the 2020s. RT’s core message is a call to authenticity: that a man's greatest influence doesn't come from his "bio" or his trophies, but from the honesty of his scars and a deep understanding of his adoption as a son of God.

Ep. 20 | Stop Trying to "Do Better": The Cure for Christian Burnout w/ Robbie Angle

In this episode, Brett sits down with Robbie Angle, President of True Face Ministries, to dismantle the "know more, do better" treadmill that leaves so many men exhausted and isolated. Robbie, a former therapist who once served as a missionary in al-Qaeda territory, shares his personal transition from a high-drive achiever "earning" God's love to a leader practicing the "lighter yoke" of abiding. The conversation dives into the messy reality of parenting eight children—including two sets of twins and five adoptions—and how the "90% nature vs. 10% nurture" realization shifted his fatherhood from pressure-filled shaping to intentional stewardship. From the "last 1%" of transparency in brotherhood to the critical difference between unhurried relationship and mere productivity, Robbie offers a refreshing paradigm for any man feeling "uncontent" or paralyzed by the gap between his expectations and his reality.

Ep. 19 | Is Work a Calling and How Do I Find It

In this episode, Ryan Reeves and Jake Korn strip away the "romanticized" pressure of finding a mystical career calling, arguing instead that work is primarily about identifying your natural talents and learning how to monetize them. Jake shares his personal transition from the military to a civilian role at the Wounded Warrior Project, emphasizing the importance of "putting miles on the soul" through experience rather than waiting for a bolt of inspiration. From discussing the rising costs of being a young man in 2026 to the value of "second chair" leadership, the duo concludes that while the Bible doesn't necessarily label your trade as a "calling," it strictly demands excellence and character in whatever path you choose to walk.

Ep. 18 | Any Man Can Learn to Pray

For many men, prayer feels less like a conversation and more like a "scheduled conference call" that usually goes to voicemail. We want results, we want a "Plan A to Plan B" outcome, and when we don’t get an immediate response, we default to our own self-sufficiency.
In this episode of the New Adam Podcast, Ryan and Brett strip away the religious formality and get real about why men find prayer so difficult. From Florida "cold snaps" and NFL loyalty to the profound lesson of a 94-year-old prayer warrior, this conversation is about moving prayer from a religious obligation to a tangible presence.